On top of the stress of being the parent of a teenager, you may also be dealing with the stress of creating a blended family. This can be a challenge to say the least, however, it is certainly not impossible and many parents of teenagers are able to successfully blend two families. As we all know, the Brady Bunch family is not reality and therefore we should never use such unrealistic families as our vision of how things will be. Blending families means balancing the needs of your adult relationship with those of your children while you all go through a significant change. It is important that during this process, you do not minimize the impact such a change can have on all of you.
Your teenager may be resentful of the many changes they are being asked to deal with. Some of these changes may include: having to share your time, changing their routines, having to share their personal space, television, computer or phone time, changing family roles, having to adjust to new rules and feeling a little less comfortable in their own home while adjusting to living with new family members. It is important to acknowledge these changes and let them know you appreciate how difficult the changes may be for them. If you are looking for support in how to do this go to www.HowToParentATeenn.com and download the free audio program that walks you through the skill of validation which can make a huge difference in a situation where you are blending a family. Any resentment from your teenager could take on many forms including acting out, isolating or a refusal to accept that you have a new significant other.
Since you, as the parent, are also experiencing a lot of change and may likely be feeling torn between your child and your new mate, it is important that you acknowledge and address any stress you are experiencing throughout this process. You will be better able to help with the overall adjustment process if you are making sure that you are taking care of yourself.