As my family is currently dealing with the serious illness of a family member…I am taking time to reflect on how I spend my days, how I notice the moments in my life and how I try to make each day count. And to be honest with you…I am not sure I always do the best job with this. Isn’t it easy to just let a day, then two days, then three days go by without really even noticing what is important or what makes you happy? I think most of us get caught up in this trap – just getting through the day and thinking about how you will plan out your next day. I am often planning out my next weekend on Monday – what about Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday??? Can’t those be good, important and meaningful days too? Of course they can be but I think we all miss the boat sometimes. We get too caught up in being pulled in too many directions and we lose…we miss out…and it is time we will never get back. It takes work but bringing awareness to each day, reflecting on what is good and on what is important each day and making sure that we are taking advantage of the moments we have can create a much more fulfilling life.
Have you ever noticed that you can take a trip somewhere and notice all the beautiful things you see, smell and hear as you are driving or walking? This is because you are tuned in. I remember doing this one time while on a weekend away in New Hampshire in the fall. All the beautiful colors, the crisp air and the calmness I felt. Then I got home and realized all the same colors and the same crisp air were present at home but where was the calmness? Why did I not see the colors or feel the air in the same way? What I realized was it was all still there – I was just not taking the time to notice it all as I had when I was away. I was not being conscious and mindful.
So – I challenge us all (myself included) to take a few moments each morning and each evening to make each day count by doing the following:
1. Each morning: wake up, set an intention for the day, make a conscious decision to make the day count (even if it is busy, crazy and overwhelming), appreciate the people in your life and know that life is what we make of it
2. Each evening: reflect on your day, appreciate what you have in your life, let those who you care about know you care and focus on what is positive instead of dwelling on the negative (even if you are frustrated, angry or upset)
Our minds are powerful and we can choose to live our lives in a powerful and meaningful way or we can choose to focus on all the wrongs in the world and the negative things that have been done to us. Which do you choose?
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